I guess first off, what do you want to do for a career?
This is important because it can help narrow down your choices. I was in a very similar situation and wound up doing option 3 (Computer Engineering).
I originally went to a CC here in MA for a Computer Science associates degree. I decided early on that they weren't really offering me enough classes where I felt comfortable that I could land a job so decided to transfer to a 4 year university to do engineering. I decided engineering because I wanted to do hardware instead of just programming, and I wanted the utility of a degree that was so multifaceted.
A lot of places aren't going to consider someone with an associates, especially over candidates with a BS or MS, and if they do it will most likely be for a very low entry-level job. I'm sure someone is going to come in and correct me, but a BS > Associates any day.
I do know a girl with an electrical tech degree and she sits on a production line all day making batteries for $16/hr. She could probably do better, but she continually tells me she wishes she instead went for EE>
All this said, and maybe I'm a bit biased personally, but I would go to a university and get an EE/CE degree. Yes, you will rack up debt. Yes, it will be probably the most difficult thing you've ever done. Yes, you won't sleep.. ever. But if you want to be an engineer, being an EE is one of the most versatile degrees you can get. You can do design work, programming, circuit debugging, big systems, tiny VLSI chips, you name it. Also, EEs make some major money. My first job out of college is starting me at $76k/year, and I know some EE's that started even higher. Of course, money isn't everything, so make sure it's something you really want to do.
As far as ABET.. it's tough to say. The thing with ABET certification is if your school has it when you graduate, then companies will know that you followed certain guidelines while obtaining your degree. I'm sure there are companies that might not care, but we've always been told it's extremely important. It's one of those things that if I was choosing between two schools and one had it and the other didn't, I'd go with the one that had it. I've heard it can be difficult for schools to get accredited, so it must be at least a little important.
Also, I've been in your shoes so if you have any questions ask away. I'm sure my post was more of a ramble than help.