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  • Stay. Make it work. Change things. Talk. Work shit out.

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  • Go. Nut-up or shut up. Move on. Deal with the drama.

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  • Shut up and enjoy what you have.

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    Stay or go?

    This weekend marks 8 years of dating the same chick. Not married to her. Just dating her.

    The situation:
    I live in what passes for a real city in the midwest. She lives just over an hour away in a shithole town. She lives with her parents during the week. She visits me on the weekend. Been like this since we started dating. Neither of us have finished college. Both of us have jobs that we live RIGHT next to in our respective cities that pay us quite well for not having degrees. Neither of us want to leave our jobs. Neither of us want to live between our two cities. We talk after work each weekday.

    The pros:
    She's hilarious. She's hot. She puts up with my bullshit. She dutifully drives here every weekend to spend time with me. She's low maintenance. Doesn't care that I'm overweight. My friends adore her. She has no real friends of her own to speak of / no annoying as hell female buddy / all her friends are really my friends. We can leave each other alone and just chill out for hours on end without annoying each other. Neither of us have or want kids. Actually genuinely loves me. I love her.

    The cons:
    She has anger management issues. She can say anything and I have to stay chill no matter how mad she gets. The second I start to raise my voice she goes to pieces. She's kinda dumb. Her mom is annoying. Her dad is that redneck white trash trump supporter who's convinced himself that Republicans are right about everything... but he also doesn't have a job / refuses to get one / lives off his wife. The sex is rubbish. She was always terrible in bed. Can't express what she wants. Won't talk about it. Won't tell me. She's a terrible kisser and her breath ranges from "unpleasant" to "dear lord, did you brush your teeth with dog shit?" Haven't had sex in more than 6 months and neither of us seem to miss it. I don't think we've been IN love with one another for about 3 years now. We're just sort of buddies / activity partners at this point.

    I don't really want to be with her. But I don't MIND being with her.

    I really think I'm only with her because I don't want to deal with the drama of breaking up with her.

    What do you guys think? Should I ditch her? Try to make it work?

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    If the sex is bad... What is the upside? Seems like a friend with benefits situation, with bad sex.

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    Quote Originally Posted by lendarios View Post
    If the sex is bad... What is the upside? Seems like a friend with benefits situation, with bad sex.
    Honestly, the upside is that she's a status symbol for me. An ego boost. I'm gonna be 39 this month. She JUST turned 30. She's bubbly young and blonde.

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    With dog shit breath...

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    anger management. She can say anything and I have to stay chill no matter how mad she gets
    dumb
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    Try to make what work? Trade in those beta arguments, dumb conversations, and extra pounds for a real status symbol. Start working out instead of being some retard's stuffed animal.

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    Id give it a few months and pretty much give her a few ultimatums. Either learn to give good blowjobs and brush your teeth or im ejecting.

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    Breath mints will fix 66% of these issues.

    Also, lose some weight before you head to greener pastures.

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    Dude when I read a story like this and you say she's dumb I have to question who the dumb one in the relationship is
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    Leave. A lot of the cons sound like my marriage, and it is a nightmare.

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    Breath mints fix one problem
    Sex is a two way street, how is it bad? Unless she refuses to do anything other than missionary & lay there, there's always a way to improve it if you're the dominant one.
    Dumb, that's where I'd have a deal breaker. If I can't enjoy a witty back and forth semantics battle/banter without someone getting lost or angry they are losing, big ol' pile of nope.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Noodleface View Post
    Dude when I read a story like this and you say she's dumb I have to question who the dumb one in the relationship is
    Wisdom.
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    I gotta say as a soon to be 38 year old if I weren't married and I was dating there's no way in fuck I'd date anyone under say 32 at this point. I just can't be bothered with "young" shit anymore. Talking to my younger cousin and friend and their dating woe's there's generally far far too much retarded meaningless drama they tell me about that I just don't have time for.
    I'd personally move on but if you really want a dumb hot piece of ass maybe try some kind of couples counseling? Speaking from personal experience as someone with a very low tolerance shit that wastes me time to the point I get furiously annoyed I guarantee there's a reason she has anger management issues. The question is are you invested enough to get to the bottom of that problem and potentially put some work in addressing it?
    And fuck in-laws. Even my wife can't stand her own mother to the point we went nearly 3 years without talking to her. It was a glorious 3 years. lol

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    Quote Originally Posted by Profundis View Post
    Leave. A lot of the cons sound like my marriage, and it is a nightmare.
    You should make a poll.

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    Darling you got to let me know
    Should I stay or should I go?
    If you say that you are mine
    I'll be here 'til the end of time
    So you got to let me know
    Should I stay or should I go?
    It's always tease, tease, tease
    You're happy when I'm on my knees
    One day it's fine and next it's black
    So if you want me off your back
    Well, come on and let me know
    Should I stay or should I go?
    Should I stay or should I go now?
    Should I stay or should I go now?
    If I go, there will be trouble
    And if I stay it will be double
    So come on and let me know
    This indecision's bugging me (esta indecision me molesta)
    If you don't want me, set me free (si no me quieres, librame)
    Exactly whom I'm supposed to be (digame que tengo ser)
    Don't you know which clothes even fit me? (no sabes que ropas me queda)
    Come on and let me know (me tienes que decir)
    Should I cool it or should I blow? (me debo ir o quedarme)
    Split
    Should I stay or should I go now? (yo me enfrio o lo soplo)
    Should I stay or should I go now? (yo me enfrio o lo soplo)
    If I go there will be trouble (si me voy va a haber peligro)
    And if I stay it will be double (si me quedo sera el doble)
    So ya gotta let me know (me tienes que decir)
    Should I cool it or should I blow? (me debo ir o quedarme)
    Should I stay or should I go now? (tengo frío por los ojos)
    If I go there will be touble (tengo frio por los ojos)
    And if I stay it wil be double
    Si me quedo sera el doble
    So ya gotta let me know me tienes que decir
    Should I stay or should I go?

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    Where do you want to be in life in 5 years?

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    Honestly this situation sounds fucking horrific. No sex in 6 months and you don't miss it? Dude, lose some weight, get your fucking libido back, and stop settling because some chick doesn't mind you and you don't mind her. What kind of fucking outlook on life is that? I couldn't imagine being content with another person. That's fucking pathetic.

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    I'd say talk about it likely leading to a split, but think your mind is already made up.

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    To me the worst aspect of her personality and the relationship is "anger management issues". IMHO there's nothing more toxic and disempowering than having a raging lunatic that goes off the deep end when she gets angry. Besides the soul sucking aspect of it, there's nothing you can really do about a shrieking banshee that won't shut up -- you can't hit her and your only recourse is calling the cops. One of the first things I look for in a date right now is how she handles stress and conflict..

    But besides the temper issue, the fact that neither of you are interested in sex anymore is basically a big red flag that the relationship is already toast. The bad breath problem if you really wanted to could be fixed with a friendly gift certificate for a checkup/whitening at your dentist. I once dated a chick that looked like a million bucks but had bad breath, and it was easily solved this way.

    It really sounds like all you care about at this point is the "prestige" that comes with dating a hot young piece of ass. If that's what's important to you, then sign up for one of those sugar daddy sites and find yourself some post-college tail..

    Eight years is a long time, longer even than most marriages last. In a sense, your relationship sounds like a stale marriage. You can either choose to fix her breath (easy) and try to revive your sex life, or move on.

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    The pros are not compelling. The cons are mostly deal-breakers.

    I don't see how this is even a question except that you're overweight, approaching middle-age and are concerned that you won't be able to score another chick who is hot enough to support your ego. Great sex, good family, smart, available (meaning not an hour away living with parents), and not crazy from a 6.5- will be a much more satisfying than a distant, frigid, angry, dumb white trash 8.5 who also happens to be a closet poop eater.

    Break up. Get a gym membership.
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    these guys are disturbed...

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    Gonna need pics to truley understand the pros.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Nester View Post
    Gonna need pics to truley understand the pros.
    ^^^ This. Because Camerous. And Shelly.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Nester View Post
    Gonna need pics to truley understand the pros.
    Does it matter? He said they don't fuck and he doesn't miss it. She could be a whale or a supermodel and the story is the same.

    And bro... did you read this post after you wrote it? Does the question need answering? Re-read it to yourself aloud and go... question: answered

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    Oh, did you think I was trying to help him and not you and I ?

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    I'm so glad my wife brushes her teeth
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    Quote Originally Posted by Noodleface View Post
    I'm so glad my wife brushes her teeth
    Yeah. Me too.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Iannis View Post
    Yeah. Me too.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Zhavric View Post
    Haven't had sex in more than 6 months and neither of us seem to miss it. I don't think we've been IN love with one another for about 3 years now. We're just sort of buddies / activity partners at this point.
    You already answered your question. Tell her you want to find a way to reconnect (if you do), or that you don't want to be with her any more.

    Life is short, be with someone who makes you happy.
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    No, his super power is super preparedness. So basicly the. Best gay date of your life, cooks your favourite meal, has your favourite song in the back ground, playing your favorite game while drinking your favourite scotch. He knows what you like and it sets the mood, also Lots of lube and just enough forplay. He is batman he is ready for YOU as he has dedicated his life to being ready to do the things others can't and wont.

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    My job hasnt given me a paycheck in 6 months. Should I keep going into work or move on?
    No matter what I order, the restaurant around the corner only gives me an empty plate. Should I keep going to this restaurant or find a new one?

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    I mean, hd porn is great and all, but I pity you if you haven't had sex in 6 months and miss nothing. You obviously are not very attracted to this person. Do yourself a favor and start getting into shape, today. You're 39 and "overweight", the road you're heading down you're going to be 49 and obese and you're not going to want to lose the weight then.

    I would work on you and see if you can work out your problems. If not, you will at least be in a better place when and if you decide to pursue another relationship.

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    A quick note on the anger management:

    I work collections. I'm good at it. I make a decent living out of it. I have developed a skill set that allows me to deal with irate frustrated people without becoming overly irate and frustrated myself. No. I am not the world's greatest bill collector or any shit like that. I do all right for 8 hours a day.

    When I talk to her, she can get worked up about shit that no sane human being has any reason to get worked up about. And I catch myself using my work skill set to keep myself calm and get her to calm down. She goes through phases. Some months, she's completely chill and pleasant. Other months, every other word out of anyone's mouth puts her into bitch-mode. With me constantly having to stay chill.

    Once in a blue moon... like... MAYBE every six months if that... I will let my emotional response match or exceed hers. When it happens, she always freaks out, goes off crying, claims she'll just leave, etc. It's fucking infuriating. She can say anything and I just sort of have to take it. If I talk to her the way she talks to me, she goes to pieces.

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    As for pics? Sorry. There's enough in here that if she read it, she'd know it was about her. And I know some of you out there can out-interweb me / find a way to track her down from her pic / etc. I appreciate the advice and time taken to read and reply. But yeah. No pics.

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    Spank her.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Zhavric View Post
    Haven't had sex in more than 6 months and neither of us seem to miss it. I don't think we've been IN love with one another for about 3 years now. We're just sort of buddies / activity partners at this point.
    Was on the fence until this. Out. Stay activity partners, if you want (little awkward) but move on. And start working out.

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    Go ahead and let a fight blow up really really big. Maybe it will be over, or maybe the makeup sex will actually be good. Either outcome is a win.
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    You should talk to J49. He's pretty good with resurrecting sub-par sex life with the wife/gf.... It may set you back 20-40 bucks but it apparently works.

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    Echuta, why isn't your avatar an ewok?
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    Quote Originally Posted by Hoss View Post
    Echuta, why isn't your avatar an ewok?
    You SERIOUS BRO?


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    Everyone no matter how fine they are now gets ugly. Looks IMO once passed a certain age if silly. Find someone that is compatible to what you want in life.

    Leave. Christ the family alone would make me leave.

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    She'll probably end up dumping you first.
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    The grass is always greener until you get to the other side. I'm sure there's a lot she could say about you, and I find it strange that she's the one putting in the majority of the effort to visit.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Itlan View Post
    I couldn't imagine being content with another person. That's fucking pathetic.
    This is the saddest thing I've ever read here.

    If you tell me that you wake up, every single day, 100% pedal to the metal in love with someone, I will call you a liar every single day of the week. Any relationship that is that intense is either bullshit waiting to happen or brand spanking new, and it'll fizzle out at some point.

    Zhavric, the only reason I'd say you need to run for the hills is the gaslighting you're getting from her. If she refuses to acknowledge the constant outpouring of emotional abuse she's putting you through, she isn't worth your time, no matter how comfortable being around her can be when she isn't forcing you to talk her down the rest of the time. Get out now.

    Or, hey, you could always treat her the way she's been treating you, and if she can get over it (without killing someone, least of all you or herself), maybe she'll have an epiphany and start treating you better. But do you really want to chance it? Sounds like she's used to getting exactly the behaviour she wants out of you, and if you press the issue, she might react very poorly. Your call.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Alkorin View Post
    This is the saddest thing I've ever read here.

    If you tell me that you wake up, every single day, 100% pedal to the metal in love with someone, I will call you a liar every single day of the week. Any relationship that is that intense is either bullshit waiting to happen or brand spanking new, and it'll fizzle out at some point.
    Thats completely not true, I've been married a long time, and there's nobody I've ever met thats tempted me away from her even for a second. There have been times I wanted to strangle her dumb ass but her and I are a team and we always work it out and come together.

    Now, in the situation in the OP of this thread, he should dump that bitch like yesterday. And lose weight. But when you do find someone good and open yourself up to her and she to you, and you really communicate with her all your needs and wants and don't play any fucking games (and neither does she) it's a beautiful thing.

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    I'm not talking about being tempted by someone else, Cad. I'm talking about "being content" being "fucking pathetic". There are plenty of times when I'm content, and you know what? As far as I'm concerned, that's a hell of a lot better than being alone/depressed because I'm alone, and that doesn't mean I've settled, either.

    What you're describing in your first paragraph there is exactly the same thing that I have with my wife. We have our issues, at times. We work them out. That's called "a relationship". All these fairy tales about a ridiculous crazy love story that has no downsides and zero effort? No. Just no.

    As for OP, he will feel like he has to talk this friend of his down from her moods sometimes, and that's normal. It isn't normal when it happens all the time, though, and that's the biggest red flag here, in my opinion. He called her "low maintenance". I say that's absolutely false if he has to walk on eggshells around her all the time for fear of triggering some sort of negative response. She's high maintenance as hell.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Alkorin View Post
    a ridiculous crazy love story that has no downsides and zero effort? No. Just no.
    Obviously, but I don't really remember anyone saying that

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    Quote Originally Posted by Cad View Post
    Obviously, but I don't really remember anyone saying that
    The ridiculous, crazy love part is implied by "I couldn't imagine being content with another person". Maybe I'm just missing Itlan's huge problem with being content.

    Anyway, I don't want to take away from OP too much, and he clearly isn't even content or he wouldn't be asking this question in a place like this.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Alkorin View Post
    The ridiculous, crazy love part is implied by "I couldn't imagine being content with another person".
    Thats quite a stretch.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Palum View Post
    You SERIOUS BRO?

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    Before you bail, give it one month. During this month, start acting as you did when you first met. Do all the stupid retarded things you did to get and keep her attention. Keep it up for a month. The sex will increase and she will calm the fuck down. One thing I learned- The horse isn't a winner on its own. You have to ride that horse hard to make it a winner.

    After a month if nothing changes, then there is your answer. You're the man. It's your responsibility to keep things alive.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Brad2770 View Post
    Before you bail, give it one month. During this month, start acting as you did when you first met. Do all the stupid retarded things you did to get and keep her attention. Keep it up for a month. The sex will increase and she will calm the fuck down. One thing I learned- The horse isn't a winner on its own. You have to ride that horse hard to make it a winner.

    After a month if nothing changes, then there is your answer. You're the man. It's your responsibility to keep things alive.
    Fuck no. It's up to both parties to keep things alive.

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    I'm not saying the woman isn't expected to contribute to the relationship, but at any point you start to ease up off of the things you did to get her interested, things can get stale. Keep her surprised. Keep her always guessing what you will do next. This is what I'm talking about that is your responsibility. (Flower when she wakes up, gift card to her favorite beauty application, a poem to cheer her up when she is sad, etc...)

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    Quote Originally Posted by Moonarchia View Post
    Fuck no. It's up to both parties to keep things alive.
    You're a complete moron. You're literally saying here that it's both people's responsibility so neither should do anything. On one hand I'd like to know how anything gets done in your world where no one ever takes the lead, but on the other hand I think it would be best if you just didn't post in this thread anymore.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Hoss View Post
    You're a complete moron. You're literally saying here that it's both people's responsibility so neither should do anything. On one hand I'd like to know how anything gets done in your world where no one ever takes the lead, but on the other hand I think it would be best if you just didn't post in this thread anymore.
    You're being oddly retarded in this post. My only statement was that it is not one party's responsibility to 'keep things alive'. A relationship requires both parties to want it alive. If only one party is interested you end up with horrible abominations like the OP has going on. If you want a woman who is completely submissive in a relationship, that's a tangent I don't see being useful in this thread.

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    Brad's advice was to take initiative and give it a month. Your rebuttal was not to do that because somehow both people have to do these things at exactly the same time. I suppose they get together and count down from 3 and then start? But how do they know that since no one is allowed to take the initiative and bring it up. You made an idiotic response to some solid advice. His method has saved lots of marriages. When you get in a situation like he's in, it's usually because of complacency not because someone has checked out. You don't wake up one day apart, you wake up one day and realize you've drifted apart. When you start being more attentive and doing the things you did in the beginning the other person often realizes it too and responds in kind. She may not even remember what she's missing.

    That being said I don't think it's something zhavic should bother trying. This woman has way more negatives than positives and it sounds like she was never all in anyway. But it's his decision if he thinks it's a relationship worth trying to save.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Convo View Post
    She'll probably end up dumping you first.
    Maybe not this, but if you break up she will likely move on to one of your other friends, since she has none of her own. In fact, six months with no sex is an indicator that this might already be taking place. You are not in love. You are not even fucking this woman. You are just too lazy to bury the fucking corpse of your relationship and move on with life. Pull the ripcord and get back out there and find someone who DOES make you love them and want to fuck them. Plus. expect her to go nuclear in response to this and sabotage all your mutual friendships to the best of her ability. Whatever you do, don't advance the relationship as an attempt to "fix" it. Its dead and has been for a while. Deep down, you knew this before you ever posted here. Bury it, sack up, and move on. Only your own apathy is keeping you in this situation.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Ortega View Post
    The grass is always greener until you get to the other side. I'm sure there's a lot she could say about you, and I find it strange that she's the one putting in the majority of the effort to visit.
    I have a better saying. The grass is just as green on both sides. Just different weeds.

    Sounds like you are unbearably unhappy dude. Move on if you are not happy.

    Go find some different weeds.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Utnayan View Post
    I have a better saying. The grass is just as green on both sides. Just different weeds.

    Sounds like you are unbearably unhappy dude. Move on if you are not happy.

    Go find some different weeds.
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    If that's the grass we're talking about I'd take brown over green every time.

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    6 months of no sex, you both checked out of the relationship.

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    these guys are disturbed...

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    Quote Originally Posted by Alkorin View Post
    The ridiculous, crazy love part is implied by "I couldn't imagine being content with another person". Maybe I'm just missing Itlan's huge problem with being content.

    Anyway, I don't want to take away from OP too much, and he clearly isn't even content or he wouldn't be asking this question in a place like this.
    I never said it had to be "ridiculous, crazy love." Perhaps I have a negative connotation of the word content.

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    Yeah, I'd say you're probably mixing up "being content" with "settling for", or "compromising yourself for". As far as I'm concerned, there's nothing wrong with simply feeling good about the situation you're in. If you've knocked yourself down a few notches to make things work, and that's not something you're satisfied with, that's another story.

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    Does anyone ever follow the forum's advise about this kind of shit?

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    Johnny followed our advice when we told him to stop seeing whores and reconnect with his wife

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    Quote Originally Posted by Picasso View Post
    Johnny followed our advice when we told him to stop seeing whores and reconnect with his wife
    Only took 3 years.
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    Did his grill find out she was getting dumped on the internet and kill the OP?

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    No, her breath killed him.

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    Your pros sound like you're compatible from a logical perspective but obviously something is off between you two from an emotional perspective. The fact that you are not having sex for six months and neither one of you give a shit is a huge red flag that this is not a healthy and normal relationship. I'm generally the anti-rerolled poster when it comes to sex because I feel everyone on this forum puts way, way too much weight and emphasis on it but it is still an important aspect of a healthy relationship and generally the health of the sexual relationship is a direct manifestation of the overall health of the relationship in general. First I think you need to ask why you aren't being physical. Lack of attraction? Lack of caring? Seen as more effort than benefit? Neither of you care to initiate? Or it could be something more. Like you are both actually fed up with one another but are both incredibly shit-scared to actually sever the relationship. So you'll allow it to sit in this awkward limbo state because you feel being with anyone even in a direly unhealthy relationship is better than none at all. The fact that you basically just referred to her as a trophy on the first page and an ego boost to yourself indicates, to me, you are horribly insecure. You should fix yourself and possibly it will fix your relationship. Or possibly the relationship is already soured to the point where it is beyond repair. Either way it doesn't sound like it is really the chick at fault. She is the one driving to see you which is a very real representation of making an effort. You seem to just sit around and bitch about her parents from your Midwestern cosmopolitan fantasy land and complain about her breath but sounds like you're too afraid to actually tell her it smells bad and fix it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Picasso View Post
    Johnny followed our advice when we told him to stop seeing whores and reconnect with his wife
    To be fair, she caught him & read the whores journal. I think he more lucked into the lottery outcome on that one

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    Quote Originally Posted by Tenks View Post
    Your pros sound like you're compatible from a logical perspective but obviously something is off between you two from an emotional perspective. The fact that you are not having sex for six months and neither one of you give a shit is a huge red flag that this is not a healthy and normal relationship. I'm generally the anti-rerolled poster when it comes to sex because I feel everyone on this forum puts way, way too much weight and emphasis on it but it is still an important aspect of a healthy relationship and generally the health of the sexual relationship is a direct manifestation of the overall health of the relationship in general.

    First I think you need to ask why you aren't being physical. Lack of attraction? Lack of caring? Seen as more effort than benefit? Neither of you care to initiate? Or it could be something more. Like you are both actually fed up with one another but are both incredibly shit-scared to actually sever the relationship. So you'll allow it to sit in this awkward limbo state because you feel being with anyone even in a direly unhealthy relationship is better than none at all. The fact that you basically just referred to her as a trophy on the first page and an ego boost to yourself indicates, to me, you are horribly insecure.

    You should fix yourself and possibly it will fix your relationship. Or possibly the relationship is already soured to the point where it is beyond repair. Either way it doesn't sound like it is really the chick at fault. She is the one driving to see you which is a very real representation of making an effort. You seem to just sit around and bitch about her parents from your Midwestern cosmopolitan fantasy land and complain about her breath but sounds like you're too afraid to actually tell her it smells bad and fix it.
    FTFY

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    Quote Originally Posted by Tenks View Post
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    Face fart?

    Is that some subtle crack about how bad her breath is?

    Omg stop talking, it smells like dogfart.

    Did you get a pack of memtos and just pop one in her mouth when she knocked on the door? Because there is often a great deal of comedy in doing that, and if you're willing to risk a seriously ugly fight it can be an excellent way to broach a delicate subject.

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